What To Do When He Keeps His Distance
Did you ever feel that there is a disconnect between you and your man? Did you ever feel that you are the only one trying to make the relationship a bit more intimate? Your man may not accept it but there is something in between that keeps the relationship from taking off. Here’s a scoop for you! Men can be harsh when they say that they don’t feel or notice something different about the relationship. Worse, they could be actually doing it in purpose because they don’t want the relationship to go any further. You then realize that it has nothing about you. You have been patient enough to put up with him. It is just he has been keeping his distance as you struggle to make the relationship more intimate. Do you ever wonder why a man does these things? Like, he makes you feel that he is not interested or care about your relationship. Even you feel that deep down inside he does care about you and the relationship. It can be a frustrating time for a woman to get the deal on this situation.
Unlike women that wants to be loved, respected and be heard—men has a different approach when it comes to relationships. Men have different concepts of love, respect and what they feel is a “good relationship”. They often have different approaches to try to resolve issues in a relationship. Men can sometimes be too much detached from a relationship. Most men don’t understand about the fuss of being distant. Therefore, they don’t notice what you have been noticing all along. It is because they don’t understand the concept of being attached or detached for that matter. A concept most women understand and feel in a relationship.
It may have been frustrating you that your man is not giving the real emotions to make the relationship work. It is not about him not caring; it is about him not knowing how to express the way you want it to be expressed. We are ruling out the possibility of him playing around. It is possible his distance can be caused by a third-party. If that element is ruled out, we have to consider how men’s brains are wired and their world view.
Part of the secret in making him closer is to speak his language. He can truly understand the situation if it is laid out to him in a way he could understand it. Communication is the first aid for widening gaps in a relationship. You need to be able to communicate your feelings and emotions to him in a way he understands where you are coming from. The last thing you should do in a situation like this is overanalyze. Most women end up thinking that his man is cheating on her, thus the cold shoulder in the relationship. While most situations end that way; it is not usually the case. If you overanalyze chances are you are led to answers that may only complicate the situation.
The important thing to do for a woman is seek to understand in order to be understood. You need to place yourself in his shoes and look at the world from his perspective. Maybe he just wants time alone with himself because you cannot connect with the things he love and adore. Maybe it’s time for you to ask your man what sports team he follow and try to use it as a jump-off point of the conversation. If he feels that you are trying hard to connect with him and it catches his interest he will respond to it. This is where you build the foundation of a strong bond that your relationship needs at this time.